It’s not always easy to ask for sex, especially in long-term relationships. Luckily, there are plenty of ways to do it without asking directly.
Using a little bit of humor and subtle hints can be a great way to get your point across. This article will cover 7 easy ways to ask for sex without asking!
Send a Suggestive Photograph
Men often require a visual aid in order to get aroused and ready for sex. As such, it’s a good idea to drop some subtle (or not so subtle) hints when you’re dating someone new that you want to take your relationship to the next level.
A simple yet effective way to do this is to send them a picture that’s a little racy. While this might not be the most direct way to ask for sex, it’ll certainly be an eye-opener for them and will definitely set their imaginations running wild!
Another great way to show your interest is by getting touchy-feely with them. By grabbing their breasts, hugging them tightly, caressing them or simply walking very close to them, you can make it quite clear that you’re in the mood for some intimacy. Also, it’s important to know what your partner’s love language is. Knowing this can help you determine how best to communicate your feelings to them. It could be through a gift, acts of service, words of affirmation or physical touch.
Watch an Erotic Film
Pornography is usually relegated to people’s solo sex lives but it can be an entertaining way for couples to bond over shared erotic stimuli. Just be sure to check the temperature of your partner before suggesting that you watch a naughty film together.
If you’re confident that your partner isn’t offended by porn you can even use it as a playful way to determine their interest in sex. You could suggest watching a sexy thriller like “Slaughter High” or “Fight Club.”
You can also try using non-visual erotic media to get your partner in the mood such as written or audio erotica. You can find sexy stories and podcasts online, or you might have some already in your library of romance novels. It’s important to remember that every person has a different love language and what works for one may not work for another. Make sure to pay attention to your partner and what makes them feel loved, whether it be through giving/receiving gifts, quality time together, acts of service, words of affirmation or physical touch.
Take a Shower Together
Showering can be a sensual experience and is a good opportunity to get closer to your partner. Using kisses and touch during this private moment can make your partner feel more intimate and can increase your feelings of attraction for them.
If you want to go a step further, try showering together with romantic music playing and dim lights. You can also use this opportunity to playfully tease your partner by kissing their neck or shoulders and caressing their face or hair.
Getting touchy-feely with your partner is another way to show that you’re interested in having sex. Gently stroking a woman’s nipples or clitoris, for example, can stimulate them and put them in the mood.
Alternatively, you could ask for sex without asking in a more obvious manner by inviting them over to your place and setting the scene with candles and rose petals. Just be sure to clear things up with them in advance so that you don’t embarrass them if they decline your request. Also, be mindful of the location – you don’t want to bring it up when they are in public!
Sometimes, couples have a little fun after a fight by doing some makeup sex. It’s easy to understand why they do this – it allows them to release their built-up adrenaline and gives them a chance to reach earth-shattering orgasms.
Makeup sex can also be a great way to say “I’m sorry” to a partner. However, it’s important to remember that the purpose of making up is not just for the sexual aspect of a relationship but also to re-connect emotionally in a healthier way.
But, if the only reason you want to make up is for the sexual aspect, then it might be time to talk about your reasons. And, if you’re starting to fake fights over petty issues like smelly trash, then it’s probably best to work on those issues instead of using them as excuses for sex. After all, the only thing worse than an ugly argument is a toxic one that’s just for sex. And, that’s just a waste of all the chemicals that went into the fight in the first place.
Netflix and Chill
If you really want to get some sex, but you don’t have the nerve to ask directly, you can use the Netflix and chill tactic. This millennial hook-up ploy is basically the booty call of our times, but it’s also a great way to test out your compatibility with someone and suss out whether or not you can see yourself having long-term sex with them.
To execute this strategy, just text or snap her that you’re down to watch a movie with her. If she agrees, invite her over to your place and set the mood by lighting some candles and turning off the lights (except for a desk lamp so you don’t look creepy).
Then settle in on the couch with some popcorn and turn on a good flick. If the vibe is right, you can start to talk about the film and spark some sexual tension by hinting at things that might happen in the plot or asking if she thinks the acting was amazing. Keep the conversation light and flirty, but don’t go overboard, otherwise it might come off as creepy.