There are many reasons why sex might slow down in your marriage. It could be because of your children, mismatched libidos, or the natural decline of sexual drive that occurs as you age.
Some couples find that once a month is enough and are happy with this level of intimacy. For others, sex is essential and needs to be an integral part of the relationship.
1. Physical Health
Many people who have sex regularly feel better, physically, than those who do not. Studies show that regular sexual activity can boost libido and lead to better overall health. However, if you go too long without sex, you may experience some negative side effects. Some of these side effects can include sexual desire, loss of sex drive, and even a decrease in physical pleasure.
For some people, especially those who are used to having sex with a partner or whom are in a romantic relationship, it can be difficult to find replacement intimacy. Often times, this lack of physical connection can cause anxiety or insomnia. It can also lead to what is referred to as “touch starvation,” which can weaken the immune system, and contribute to depression and isolation. Touch starvation can be particularly difficult for marginalized groups, including LGBTQ folks and those in the kink community.
While it can be difficult to find other forms of intimate connection, there are some ways to reduce temptation and prevent a sexless relationship. One way is to find healthy and nourishing alternative sources of pleasure, such as exercise, meditation, or talking to friends. Another way is to create a support network and hold yourself accountable.
If you are in a relationship and want to avoid going too long without sex, it is important for both partners to be able to communicate their needs. This can be a difficult conversation, but it is essential for maintaining a healthy relationship.
2. Mental Health
For most people, sex is one of life’s greatest pleasures. It can be exciting, satisfying, and thrilling — but it can also lead to mental health problems if not managed carefully.
Sexual activity activates parts of the brain that boost feelings of happiness and reduce stress. When these brain activities are disrupted, it can affect mood and trigger anxiety and depression. That’s why it’s important to find other ways to feel happy and satisfied in life, such as exercising, talking to friends, and even watching TV.
People who go too long without sex can develop symptoms such as a loss of interest in intimacy, low libido, and feeling insecure in their relationships. Some of these issues may be related to underlying health problems such as pain, depression, or medications.
Some people also have a hard time accepting their abstinence from sex. This is especially true for members of marginalized groups, including the LGBTQ community and those who are asexual. They may feel like they are being judged if they choose not to engage in sexual activity, and that can add to the already-existing stresses of their lives. However, these feelings can be managed by having regular conversations with your partner about how sex is important to you and keeping the lines of communication open. This can prevent problems from arising in the future.
Often, people go through dry spells when they are in a romantic relationship. It can lead to feelings of dissatisfaction and lack of intimacy in the relationship. It can also be a sign of an unhealthy relationship.
However, many people who have healthy relationships manage to cope with these dry spells by talking about them and making sure that they are happy in other ways. They can also spend time together in other nonsexual ways, like going for walks, eating meals together, playing games, or even just spending quality time talking.
It is important to note that there are many people who have no interest in sex at all and that’s okay too. It’s also important to talk about this with your partner and discuss how you feel about each other’s sexual desires. This way you can make sure that you are on the same page about how much sexual intimacy you want and need in your relationship.
Some people have a hard time talking about sex, which can lead to misunderstandings and a lack of communication in their relationships. Having a clear understanding of the role that sex plays in your relationship can help to prevent miscommunication and misunderstandings. It can also help you identify any underlying issues that may be causing you or your partner to feel less satisfied with the sexual aspect of your relationship.
Everyone goes through rough patches in life which can leave them feeling empty. Some people find ways to fill this emptiness with unhealthy behaviors such as drugs, alcohol, gambling or sex. Often, these behaviors don’t last long and they end up making you feel worse than you did before.
It’s important to remember that your self-worth does not come from having sex. You have so many other qualities that you can bring to your relationships. Be patient and build your confidence up slowly. If you’re not sure where to start, try reading some positive affirmations, practicing mindfulness or seeking out an affirming community of non-sexual people.
For men who are used to having sex regularly, abstaining for an extended period can lead to diminished sexual interest and even libido loss. This can make a man feel depressed, anxious and lonely. However, these feelings can be overcome by redirecting this energy into something else like playing sports, spending time with friends or anything that helps keep you occupied.
If you are struggling with low self-esteem, talk to your GP. They can help you explore different ways of coping and may suggest therapy or counselling. Janet Brito is an AASECT-certified sex therapist, and she has a degree in clinical psychology and social work. She is also the author of a number of best-selling books and has written for Thrive, The Huffington Post, and Brook. She is currently based in Hawaii.